I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting lately on the impact our words truly have on one another. So many times, we carelessly throw them around without a second thought to the impact they may have once they land. But how much are they truly destroying our relationships with the people around us? Are we leaving people feeling refreshed or bogged down?
I grew up in a home where it was very typical for strong words to be thrown around without a second thought. There would seldom be an apology or any discussion as to the impact they had on me. I was left with a heart that was slowly cracking and being whittled away with every comment made out of impulse. There was always justification as to why the words were shared. But never ownership over them.
This set me on a path where I had a strong foundation of being careless with the words that came out of my mouth. I never had regrets, as long as I felt I was justified in my actions. I was coming from a very strong place of instant gratification and not worrying about the damage that my words could be causing on others. I was looking out for myself & figured if somebody truly cared about me, they would just let it go.
A harsh reality I had to soon face: I was causing wounds to the hearts of those around me. I would justify that the wound wasn’t that bad. What I said could have been worse. But the reality is, it doesn’t matter how deep the cut is—there will still be a scar left. And the more you re-open that scar, the deeper it becomes. And eventually, people get tired of being hurt.
I have been fortunate enough to be blessed with some incredibly strong, amazing women in my life. I have seen first hand the power that their words have had to feed my soul. The moments when they choose grace and encouragement over condemnation and hurt. To feel so very seen, heard and supported. It has given me courage and the inspiration to move forward on so many things I did not think I could do.
This has really made me stop to think about the power that we all hold. We truly have the choice to either lift somebody up and we also carry the power to tear them down pretty quickly.
When an unhealthy foundation is built so strong in your life, it is a very tough pattern to break. But I am determined to be more intentional with my words. To choose love and kindness in the moments where I could easily slip into an old habit of snapping. To choose to build in the moments where I could easily hide behind busy or stressed. To understand that when somebody entrusts their heart to you, it is a strong responsibility that we all have to care for each others hearts with tenderness.
I want to be a woman who chooses to walk with those who walk beside me with nothing but grace & love.